Well, sort of. I am a widow, but you might not be. It just so happens that it was my husband that died. For you, it could be a parent, a child, a sibling, a relative, or a close friend. No matter who you have lost in your lifetime, the information that I am about to share is definitely applicable to you. Maybe you have never lost anyone! That is awesome. I am so happy for you and so glad that you have not had to experience that part of grief – yet. Unfortunately, we live in a world where death is the reality and at some point, you will lose someone that you love and care for. I’m here to tell you that it is really going to suck, but you will be okay. In this week’s blog post, I am going to share with you how I learned to become a better widow and what you can do during your time of grieving to be the best version of yourself, for yourself.
Let’s be honest, there is not a good way to follow up last week’s post.
I know that last week got pretty heavy. If you haven’t read that post, click here to catch up! The response I received was overwhelming. There were many times that I cried just out of gratitude for the people reading and reaching out to me with heart felt comments. I received so many sweet words. So many of you expressed your love for me, love for Will, and lifted me up knowing that writing that part of my story wasn’t easy. I reread that blog post at least a dozen times. It still feels unreal that I was able to post it and share that with so many people.
I figured that it’s time that I explain the whole widow thing, but I want to clarify a few things about my writing. First of all, not every post I write will revolve around the loss of my first husband. That was and is a huge part of my life, but I’ve worked hard to not allow that to consume my identity. Secondly, if I do write about my experience of becoming a widow at such a young age, I hope you will read regardless of your experiences. You don’t have to be a widow or widower to “qualify” to read those posts. In fact, it probably would be a great idea for you to read those posts and learn how to be there for people going through such an emotional and sensitive time. I can speak from experience; most people have no idea how to handle that situation. I’ve been a widow and I still struggle to find the right words for people.